Paris Hilton (L) and musician Benji Madden attend Jade Jagger's unveling of Bevledere's Jagger Dagger at the Chateau Marmont, California.
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Taking a break from the set of High School Musical 3, Zac Efron and his co-star girlfriend Vanessa Hudgens got to smooching as they watched the Los Angeles Lakers play the Utah Jazz in the NBA playoffs on Sunday (May 11).
The two were front row as they cheered and laughed throughout a game which saw the Jazz hold on to even the series by beating the Lakers in overtime, 123-115.
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It’s not every day that an entertainment industry icon personally invites you to spend some time with him at his private beach resort. And Britney Spears was happy to accept Mel Gibson’s invitation to get away for a couple of days.
Having landed at the San Jose Airport in Costa Rica on Thursday (Brit’s dad and Mel’s wife are also along for the trip) the “Gimme More” singer has been spotted enjoying herself and taking some time to just relax.
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Here is the lovely Kim Kardashian out & about in Beverly Hills doing some shopping. She also took the time out to give some change to a homeless man on the street. As you can see…those aren’t SINGLES!
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41-year-old Oscar-winning actress, Halle Berry was spotted leaving an unmarked building in Hollywood, yesterday.
It’s been 2 months now since WE had Nahla and the.LIFE Files isn’t ready to reveal our beautiful baby.
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Bad Boy recording artist Cassie with Bad Boy Records C.E.O Sean “Diddy” Combs enjoying some quality time together at the park, in NYC on Mother’s Day. It might not be the way it looks. Diddy is probably talking to Cassie about adding her to the group Danity Kane. Get them while they young, old man….
Mother’s Day with Kim Porter < Mother’s Day with Cassie…YES!
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Ever wonder what Britney Spears is worth to the economy?? What she makes for others??? MTV broke it down…
According to Portfolio Magazine here is what Britney earns for others.
» Jive Records, which has brought in more than $400 million thanks to the 83 million albums the singer has sold.
» Tour promoters and venues — Her tours have grossed $150 million, with the average take for her 265 solo shows at $583,138 each.
» Pure Nightclub — The Las Vegas hotspot reportedly sold seats at a table next to Britney’s for $50,000 at a recent party. Portfolio says Spears still pulls down between $250,000 and $400,000 just for showing up at events.
» Perfume maker Elizabeth Arden — The company has sold nearly $100 million worth of the Spears scents Believe, Curious and Fantasy.
» The paparazzi — Photos of Britney can bring in anywhere from $250 for a basic going-to-get-a-cup-of-coffee shot to $100,000 or more for an exclusive. Photo agency X17, which has a team that trails the singer everywhere she goes 24/7, estimates that Britney accounts for 30 percent of its revenue. In 2007 alone, X17 sold $2.5 million worth of Britney photos, including $500,000 for its exclusive pics of the singer’s head-shaving incident. Britney accounts for 10-15 percent of business for competitor Splash News, which brought in $200,000 for photos of Britney in a hot tub. At this point, the magazine estimates, Britney alone accounts for 20 percent of all paparazzi business.» Celebrity magazines — Between January 2006 and July 2007, Portfolio reports that Britney was a cover subject of People, Us Weekly, In Touch, Life & Style, OK! and Star a total of 175 times in just 78 weeks, accounting for sales of $360 million. A celebrity tabloid with Spears on the cover sells an average of 1.28 million newsstand copies, which is almost 33 percent more than the non-Spears issue.
» Yahoo! — She’s topped the annual Yahoo search rankings in six of the past seven years, dropping to #2 in 2004 when fellow tabloid staple Paris Hilton briefly stole her thunder. Searches for Britney were up 60 percent in 2007, the year of her divorce, shaved head and car wreck.
What does all that Britney action add up to for her galaxy of dependents? Portfolio puts the final tally of the Britney Economy at $110-120 million a year. Gimme gimme more, indeed.
Dag this broad makes a ton of bread for a lot of people.
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The rumors are swirling on Wall Street about a possible investment of $300-$500 million investment from Microsoft, which would land Facebook’s current total value in between $10-$15billion! Wow and this whole time we thought Peter Thiel (one of Facebook’s investors) was smoking rocks when he said that $1billion offer for the company was laughable. Thiel said that he placed Facebook’s value somewhere around $7 or $8 billion up there with MTV.
Zuckerberg said last year that he felt that Myspace sold themselves short to Rupert Murdoch’s News Corp for $580 million. He was probably right because in the next few months video giant YouTube sold out to Google for $1.65billion in stock.
So whatever is going on in silicon valley it seems that Mark Zuckerberg has the right idea and knows how to play the game. (The longer you hold out and refuse to sell, the more value it places on your company and product! Wow its just like dating. The longer a female withholds her goodies the harder the guy tries, the more he likes her, and he ends up spending more money for that ass!) Don’t you just love our business acumen???
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20070924/tc_nm/microsoft_facebook_dc
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French kisses are kisses in which you use your
tongues.
* Relax!
* Put your arms around the person you want to kiss.
* Begin with a slow kiss, you can close your eyes if you wish.
* Slowly and gently open your mouth and softly nudge the other persons mouth open using your tongue.
* Gently, move your tongue inside the other persons mouth and touch their tongue.
* If your partner seems tense or start to slowly pull away, stop what you are doing.
* If they open their mouth more or otherwise indicate they like the kiss, keep on doing what you have been only with a little more passion.
* As the kissing gets going saliva build up can be a problem, don't forget to swallow.
* Keep your tongue relaxed but your lips tight (saliva again), as you don't want the kiss to turn wet and messy.
* Do not get over forceful - be gentle.
* If one of you have braces you can still French Kiss, you just have to be more careful and not as forceful when things get passionate.
French Kissing takes practice - it`s fun so enjoy practicing
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we are here to help you be successful in dating and meeting new friends. It's what we do best. We want to take this opportunity of providing you with some hints and tips on helping you date safely, and successfully find that special person. You may wish to make and meet a new friend. Your main interest may be in dating online or dating in person, you may wish to find love and romance, perhaps the person you dream of marrying. It could be that you wish to travel or play sport or an activity and need a companion or other activity partner to come along.
The key to meeting new friends is to have fun, relax and enjoy. LoveBrowser.com is an excellent example of a dating site environment in which you can do these things safely and without any pressure. If you decide to meet someone there or in the outside world, then we feel there are some basic ideas you should follow for your personal comfort.
Of course, they cannot take responsibility for your actions using their services, as you are all adults, but they can offer some advice based on our own experiences.
Okay, so what can you do to help yourself?
First you need to get replies to your emails and messages. To do this here are some tips you may find helpful:-
* Think about how your profile is written. Ensure there are NO spelling mistakes in your My Own Words section and your emails and messages. This is the first important rule.
* Keep your description short but be completely honest. If you are not being truthful then when you meet, you will be discovered, if not before.
* Add fun and humor to your profile, and don't be too serious at first.
* Don't be afraid to state who you wish to meet and why. Most adults know the kind of person they are attracted to, even if they are not sure why.
* Tell people what you like and perhaps things you don't. Don't be offensive though.
* Take your time, you can edit your profile at LoveBrowser at any time. Change it occasionally to keep it fresh, and try to be original.
* Add a photo to your profile. We find that a member with a photo can get anything up to 9 times the amount of replies, in comparison with those that do not include one.
* Be polite with messaging, and don’t make judgments about the length of time to get a reply.
* Please don’t feel you need to block someone just because they are too busy to chat this time. Be cool.
* Keep your first email short and to the point, perhaps humorous and interesting. Don't include too much detail at this point, and just a few things that you have in common. Make the email talkative and allow it to flow. Don't be too serious at this stage or too emotional.
* Do NOT include you personal details in an introduction email. Leave that until a relationship is established, and you feel very comfortable with the other person.
* Try and contact a few people at the same time, but always those who you have matched, not those who you have nothing in common with as they will not welcome your contact.
* Be honest and stick to the truth. It is all too easy to add things that at this stage are not checkable. However, you may get caught out later and ruin a fantastic friendship or romance.
* Always reply quite quickly to any messages.
* Don't talk about money or possessions at this time. Most people like or love someone for who they are, not what they have. We assume you do not want to find someone who simply wants you for what you can provide.
* Do not apply any form of pressure in an email, whether it be for a reply or a meeting. Do not be critical of their profile or photo. This will create a negative response.
Okay, so once you have mailed other members and are receiving their emails, then you may wish to consider the following:-
Ensure Your Privacy is Protected
The information you supply when you register at dating sites like LoveBrowser.com is completely confidential. Your registration details are kept secret from all members and under no circumstances are made available to any third party. No member of staff should ever ask you for your password. They must NOT use your contact or email details for marketing purposes. Any member who matches you in their searches can only see what you have told them in terms of your personal profile, nothing more. Therefore, remember not to include you actual email address or telephone number in the text of your profile or in emails unless you are sure that you would like to take your friendship further. Dating sites generally cannot access your emails and do not have any control on what information you supply to another member. If someone you are in contact with is not giving much away then perhaps you should err on the side of caution.
Listen to Your Intuition
Often overlooked I feel. This is the thing we all use on a daily basis and we all trust our intuition often. It’s easy to get carried away when someone appears to be interested. Remember the rule, if you suspect something, you are probably correct. Trust your judgment. Listen to what you are being told. Ask many questions. Don't give too many details away if the other person tells you very little. If someone is being honest, they will be happy to tell you about themselves and their lives.
A key point is to make sure that you are enjoying your online dating. Never ever let someone pressure you. If you don't want to explain something or provide certain details then do not. A real friend will behave in a patient and relaxed way. After receiving an email, sit back and think about what you are being told, take your time and try and sense the person behind the email. And read their profile thoroughly.
When the Time Comes
At some point you may wish to meet in person the friend you have made. Remember the rule, you only have to meet someone if you really want to. If you feel uncomfortable about meeting, then don't agree to meet. Even if you have agreed, you can change your mind whenever you like. Perhaps you need to chat for longer, perhaps it would be better to use the phone first. Do not give out your home number, address, or personal details unless you are sure about the person you wish to meet.
If you do decide it's time to take your friendship a step further, then here are some things to think about. It may save you a great deal of time and effort: -
Ask yourself these questions:
Do you feel you know the person well?
Have they answered all your question?
Are they patient, good humored and fun?
Do you trust them?
Have they applied any pressure on you?
Do you know what they do for a living, and the area they live in?
Do you know about their background and family?
Have you seen their photo and have you more than one photo of them in different situations?
Have you spoken on the phone?
Are you sure they have described themselves truthfully?
If you can answer YES to these happily then maybe it is time to meet. Only you can decide that. Think about these general dating rules, and act upon them if you think they are a good idea :-
* Tell a person close to you about the meeting. Tell them where you are going, when you are meeting them, where the meeting will take place, what time you will be returning. Give a person close to you as much information as you can. If you have a mobile phone or are close to a pay phone then perhaps call to say you are fine and that everything is great.
* Agree to meet in a public place first. Perhaps a restaurant or bar or somewhere where there are plenty of other people. Agree to meet somewhere that you know, in familiar surroundings where you can relax and enjoy the meeting. You could arrange to have other friends in the same place but at a distance, so you feel more relaxed.
* Do not agree to be collected from work or home, and make your own way there and home on the first occasion. Perhaps get a friend to take you there and collect you afterwards.
* Restrict the time of the first meeting. Perhaps a lunch hour or a short time after work. This is useful if you decide that the situation is not favorable and you need to leave.
* If at any point you wish to leave then do so. Do not feel obliged to stay and find yourself feeling awkward. If you do not feel relaxed then you will not enjoy the date. You owe it to yourself to feel happy and relaxed, and it is possible that it may take a few meetings with different people before you find that special person.
Long Distance Relationships
Online Dating through sites like LoveBrowser means that you can easily meet people from all over the world. This is a fantastic way of dating and perhaps very soon you may find yourself emotionally involved with someone who lives a long way away. Perhaps that may be part of the attraction even. However you should try and be practical. If the person lives overseas then ask yourself the question as to are you serious that you will travel a long way to see that person? If you do travel and find yourself more than happy, then how easy will it be to keep up the relationship? If you are content with this situation, and you decide to meet then there are some other things you may wish to consider:
* ALWAYS stay in a hotel you have arranged yourself, and never stay at their accommodation, however generous. This will allow you both to feel less pressure, to relax into the situation and find some common ground. You may have both made promises in mail or on the phone that may be harder to keep once a meeting has occurred. If possible, arrange the hotel in a secure area of the city you are visiting, and arrange the hotel yourself. It's always easier to escape a date that's not going well, when not staying with them.
* Provide the details of your hotel and travel arrangements to a best friend at home, and make an arrangement to contact them when you arrive, after you have met your new friend and when you are returning. Take a mobile phone if possible and keep in contact.
* Always be cautious if in any doubt, and never be uncomfortable about changing your mind and returning home at any time should the situation cause you any concern.
The Bottom Line
The bottom line? Be yourself and enjoy your dating. We know that online dating can be great fun, safe and immensely enjoyable. We have found that as long as the basic precautions are followed, then it is possible to travel locally, or indeed, anywhere in the world to meet a special partner or make new friends. The beauty of dating online is that the whole world is open to allow you to meet fantastic new people. Just use a little intuition and common sense. We hope you don't mind us offering some basic tips and wish you every success.
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There's a feeling people get from a good kiss that's just hard and just hard to explain. Women compare it to "melting butter" and being "hit by a wave," according to a recently conducted online survey. Men describe it as similar to "vibrations at a concert" or a "three pointer at the buzzer to win the NCAA basketball tournament," according to the same survey, sponsored by SMINT Powermints in conjunction with the release of the Drew Barrymore movie Never Been Kissed.
On the surface, the SMINT sponsored survey appears to be more of a cheesy product promotion than a strict scientific survey. Let's face it, how can anyone compare a good kiss to a buzzer beater to win the NCAA championship when there is probably nothing that compares to hitting the game-winning shot? And for the guy that does that, there would probably be a lot more than just kissing going on after the game.
That's where the science of kissing comes in.
Experts believe there is a whole lot of physiology behind the warm and fuzzy feelings that accompany a good kiss. It's all about dopamine, neurotransmitters, pleasure receptors and the like.
Feelings of passionate love, often but not always a contributing factor to a really good kiss, are believed to stimulate the same type of brain activity as parachuting, bungee jumping, distance running or other sports activities, says Marta Miana, a UNLV psychology professor specializing in sexuality and health psychology.
In a nutshell, these types of activities cause the brain to experience a surge in norepinephrine, dopamine and phenylethylamine (or just PEA to some), Dr. Miana explains. These neurotransmitters attach to the so-called pleasure receptors in the brain to create feelings of euphoria, giddiness, elation and the like. Components in amphetamine drugs are similar to these same neurotransmitters, which is why these drugs create similar feelings, according to modern science.
Any of these activities can be addictive, because the pleasure receptors crave a certain level of the different neurotransmitters. For a variety of reasons believed both genetic and environmental, some people are more susceptible than others to certain types of addictions--drugs, alcohol, skiing, shopping and maybe even sex--based on the type of neurotransmitters the activities produce and the brain craves.
So you're a guy. You feel the firm touch of your girlfriend's full, soft lips pressed tightly upon your own. Maybe there's even a little tongue involved. You're feeling pretty good. And you want more.
Does that make you a sex addict?
Not necessarily.
Is sexual addiction a bona fide disease or just a scam that psychologists created to justify research and book sales?
There apparently is no clear answer.
The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity contends that addiction to sexual activity can be just as destructive to an individual as chemical dependency.
"For most people, sex enhances the quality of life," according to a 1991 NCSAC report posted on this agency's well-designed and seemingly credible Internet website. "However, about 3 percent to 6 percent of Americans have sexual addiction. Through their addiction, they may injure themselves physically, experience psychological distress, lose their livelihood and ruin meaningful relationships.
"Sexual addiction often coexists with chemical dependency, and untreated sexual addiction contributes to relapse to chemical use. These patients not only endanger themselves but also put their loved ones at risk for AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases."
Dr. Miana is like many psychologists with reservations about characterizing sexual addiction as a bona fide disease. For someone involved in a monogamous, loving relationship with his or her spouse, there may be no such thing as too much sex. However, compulsive sex often leads to conduct that is immoral, like extramarital affairs, or even illegal, like solicitation of prostitution, pedophilia or worse. And engaging in compulsive behavior often leaves a person with feelings of remorse or guilt.
Dr. Miana declines to pass moral judgment on others, but she believes a person should seek help for compulsive sex if they start to feel bad about their conduct and/or engage in activity that harms others.
"If a person is feeling badly about it, then they have a problem," she says. "If they don't feel bad, and they aren't doing anything injurious to themselves or others, then that is not a problem that needs psychological attention."
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How can you be kissed the way you want to be kissed?
Follow these exercises -- and enjoy the results!
1. Take control:
You and your partner are kissing. You gently start to take control by placing your hands on either side of his face, holding his cheeks and guiding his lips.
In doing so, you are in control of the amount of pressure and motion of his mouth and, in turn, he feels the warmth of your hands. This can be especially good if your partner's mouth is too loose or open for you.
Then it is your responsibility to kiss him as you LOVE TO BE KISSED.
2. Get him to follow your lead:
Stop when you want and tell your partner, 'I just love kissing. It's the one thing that gets me ______________ [fill in the blank; for example, you might add the word 'hot' or 'turned on']. Then look at him and say, 'Will you show me what it feels like to be kissed by me?'
3. Introduce a fantasy:
Tell him that you had a dream the other night about how he was kissing you -- and it was fabulous. Whether or not you actually had this dream, what you need to do is have an idea about what you want to ask for. So think ahead to how you want to blend the new kissing style or technique you want with what he already does. That way, you're not asking for a completely different thing and won't risk offending his ego.
If you can't manage to explain what you want fully using your dream, tell him, 'You did something like this' and then show him what you want.
4. Praise your partner:
Let your partner know when he has kissed you right.
If he does something you really like, repeat it on him and ask if it feels as good to him as it did to you. To tweak his style, it's important that you use one-word directions, such as 'lighter,' 'left,' 'right,' etc. Men have shared with me that sentence-long guidance feels like criticism, while one-word comments sound like gentle direction. Remember that while you may feel that the more you tell, the better, he will be hearing your words through his own sexual gender filter.
5. Repeat:
Don't assume that one time through will work. Men often need reminding (yes, even when it comes to better kissing and better sex). Repeat exercises 1-4 as often as necessary. And enjoy!
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For most of us, women and men alike, there was that one person who kissed us like no other. Some of us are lucky enough to still be with that person. For others, that person's kissing skill may have been his best attribute, and while our current partners have many other skills, kissing is not at the top of the list.
No need to merely daydream about those past great kisses -- you are about to be handed the keys to the kissing kingdom.
Critically important is the way in which you approach making suggestions to your partner... Given that kissing is one of the more important parts of lovemaking, it should be something we all do well.
Always make a point of saying what works, not what doesn't. Do not tell him he doesn't kiss well or doesn't 'do it' for you unless, of course, you don't want to see him again.Know that people will often touch (and kiss) the way they like to be touched.
As men are stronger and have thicker skin than women, they often touch to the pressure they know and like, which can be too much, especially initially, for women.Also, because men's mouths and tongues are larger, they may be too forceful in the moment of passion. Yet men are aware how easily a woman can go from 60 to 0 on the desire meter as a result of overly forceful or careless kissing. And there is nothing they want to avoid more than something that will interrupt lovemaking.
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Opening Lines
In my last tip I sent you out to meet women.
How did you do?
Did one thing work better than something else?
Well if you found an 'opening line' that worked more than once, you should use it again.
But be aware, there is no perfect opening line that will work–without fail, time and time again.
There are many variables to consider including time, location, her mood, her receptivity, your attitude, your demeanor, and numerous other factors you will discover here at BetterDatesNow.com in the future.
For now, let's examine some opening lines.
But first, let's set the scene.
If there's a big crowd and she's with a lot of people and it's very noisy it's a bad place to meet and introduce yourself.
Why?
She probably can't hear you well and you can't hear her. But that's a problem because most guys try to meet women at a club, filled with noise, dancing and drunks.
It's probably the worst place to meet a woman because that's what every other guy is there to do. You're just one in a million. You're just like every other guy on the prowl looking for chicks. Although, I have had some successful encounters in that very atmosphere using a technique I perfected. More about that later.
A better strategy is to meet women where there aren't a lot of guys trying to meet women.
For example, the post office, the library, a museum, a wedding, a funeral, the market, the gas station, a department store, the park, the beach, the subway, a restaurant, even on a busy street in the middle of Manhattan.
Now each of those locations requires a variation on some opening lines.
But none of them requires changing the best opener of all; "Hi."Just 'Hi' seems to work...
If you deliver a "Hi" with a smile like you're recognizing an old friend you haven't seen in months it can work wonders.
Seems too simple but it's true. Because if you deliver the line like that, she is likely to think she already knows you and can't recall who you are.
If you come off as friendly, non-threatening and sincerely glad to see her (like an old friend) she will be receptive.
If she is, and responds to you with a friendly "Hi" or "Hello," you now have the ball in your court.
It can be a virtual tennis match for the first few sentences. Your job is to win the match.
As long as she keeps hitting the ball back to your court, you're in the game.
If she doesn't return the ball, the game is over for this player, find another.
Here's a scenario:
You're pumping gas and at a nearby pump is an attractive woman you want to meet.
It's Wednesday, she's not wearing a wedding ring so you begin.Opening lines -- How's your Tuesday going?
You: "Hi"
Her: "Hello"
You: "How's your Tuesday going?"
Her: "It's Wednesday."
You: (Realizing your mistake, you say) "So it is. So how DID your Tuesday go?" (you're smiling here)
Her: (Any answer) Good, not good, I don't remember, great…whatever she says you respond the same.
You: "So is your Wednesday going better?"
At this point-if you're smiling and/or being pleasant, she sees you as lighthearted and most women like guys who are lighthearted and who might just be fun to be with.
So now we're at a critical point– with the ball in her court.
If she says something here, or anytime before this point, that moved the conversation forward, you're doing well.
If she doesn't you're done.
Let's say she answers with "It's going ok, how about you?" You're in luck, she's interested.
More opening lines that have worked well for me:
"May I ask you a question?" If she says "yes", you ask a very obscure question like, "Do you think a full moon affects the way people act?" This launches a conversation.
"Is it me or does the time seem to be going by faster this year?" Also a conversation starter.
"I'm considering moving. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?" (follow up with ‘why?')
"Who do you think are happier, married people or single people?" (follow up with ‘why?')
With the above opening lines you're opening the door for a conversation. As she talks, you listen, and ask questions. You become interested in her. And as a result, she becomes more interested in you, because you listen. It's as simple as that.
NEVER use the old standards... Very Bad opening lines:
# Do you come here often?
# What sign are you?
# Are you here for the beauty contest? (might work if she's intoxicated)
# May I buy you a drink?
My favorite and most successful opening line: "Hi."
If a conversation is started, you interrupt yourself, extend your hand and introduce yourself.
Something like this: "I'm sorry, I didn't even introduce myself. My name is Matt."
The way she responds to your extended hand and the chance to tell you her name will reveal a lot.
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Let's assume you're at a coffee shop and you see a woman you want to meet. You approach her and say something like, "I haven't seen you here before, what's your name?"
Let's say she tells you her name answering "Kelli."
She has immediately sized you up, made a decision to tell you her name and done so.
Would you say she is interested in knowing you?
I would say she's not very interested.
Why?
Because she didn't ask you your name.
She didn't say "My name is Kelli, what's yours?" If she does say that, you're off to a good start.
Let's take another example.
You approach her and say something like this: "Hi, I'm Matt. I haven't seen you here before, who are you?"
# If she says "Hi Matt, I'm Kelli," that's a great sign.
# If she extends her hand toward a handshake, even better.
# If she responds to the "who are you" in your introduction with something like "I'm just a person who enjoys coffee" and doesn't offer her name it's not a good sign. She's not immediately interested in you.
Does that mean it's over with her?
Not necessarily.
An important thing to understand in dealing with women is SHE is the one who decides if the introduction, the conversation and the relationship will go forward. The woman makes the decision based on her level of interest.
Can you make her more interested in you?
With skill, yes.
But in the first seconds of that first meeting she, on a very primitive level, decides if she likes what she sees and hears-or not. It's a spontaneous reaction to what she sees and feels about you.
Are you threatening? Are you smiling? Do you seem friendly or aggressive? Are you confident or nervous?
She has a special kind of radar and makes the decision immediately. Of course you could also catch her on a bad day. She may have just come from her dog's funeral and is not in a very good mood. But assuming that's not the case, her interest in you is much more important than your interest in her.
The big mistake we men make is thinking that because I like her, she should like me.
The way you feel about her has nothing to do with it. If she doesn't like you, or want to know you better, it's over. Don't waste your time.
When approaching a woman for the first time I have always liked the "Who are you" question, with emphasis on the word 'are.'
It suggests curiosity and at the same time indicates you have confidence.
Your assignment for this tip is to meet women.
Find ways of saying 'hello' and introducing yourself. Especially if it's a woman you are not attracted to. It's called practice. And if you're not really interested in her, you have nothing to lose and you won't be nervous. Give it try. Have fun and observe what happens.
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The only reason some guy is scoring big with women and you're not, is that he knows something you don't know..
What's Does He Know? When you're out in the world notice how women act.
At a restaurant, a coffee shop or department store. Observe and make mental notes. If you're looking for a woman, in a bar, a club, a social event or wherever, observe how women act.
# If she's with a man watch what she does: Is she touching him?
# Is he touching her?
# When she's talking to a man is he doing most of the talking-or is she?
# Is she leaning toward him or away?
We'll talk about body language in future tips but for now your assignment is to observe and make mental notes.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, "What you are speaks so loudly I can't hear what you're saying."
And so it goes when you observe.
You won't have to hear a word they're saying, because you will understand exactly what is going on by watching the way that they act.
This works for observing a couple, or a woman alone, or two or more women together.
Especially look for signs of 'interest.'
# Is she interested in the man she's with?
# Can you see it?
# Where are her eyes focused?
Her interest is a key factor in any relationship, whether you want to take her home that night or marry her, her degree of interest will be the deciding factor.
In fact, there is nothing more important than her interest.
In next week's tip we'll explore more about how to gauge her interest. And in future tips I'll tell you how to maximize her interest.
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Go to a playground that's not in use and play! Take along a picnic lunch, baseball, bat, Frisbee or outdoor toys (blowing bubbles is fun)� Have a great lunch after playtime.
Don't surprise your date with a hatchet movie, meal, etc. on the first date. They may be allergic to horror films - and you don't want to 'surprise' a vegetarian with a dinner at "Harvey's House of Beef."
With a 'surprise' date you could end up with a teetottler at a wine-tasting, or a lactose-intolerant date at a cheese fest - you get the picture...
Be honest, don't play games. Avoid even stretching the truth, the first time you're caught it will destroy your credibility.
Free dating advice, dating ideas, date tips, COOL date ideas, be on timeBe on time. Lateness is inconsiderate (not to mention it reveals all sorts of things about your personality such as your passive-aggressive tendencies). If your date is late, be pleasant, and listen to their reason - it might be legitimate.
Tell yourself you're not nervous, just excited.
If your date compliments you don't just brush it off or say something rude about yourself, say thank you and do NOT put yourself down.
If you're concerned about topics of conversation, be sure to read a newspaper or watch a news program that day so you're up on world events.
Find out if he has any good platonic female friends. It's a good sign if they can relate to women�
Keep checking the inside (give the exterior stuff a rest). If you stay focused on looks you may end up ignoring or dumping a perfectly fantastic person without ever really giving them a chance.
Be open -- to your date's ideas about what to do on the date and express yourself honestly (AND tactfully).
Don't manhandle your date and don't rush sex!
Keep the first date brief. Leave them wishing for more, not wondering how to escape.
Stay away from someone who only talks about money and 'things' or who boasts - usually signs of deep-seated insecurity.
Don't talk about marriage and kids and long-term plans for the two of you on your first dates.
Be clear about the date, time and place...and be on time! Don't leave things hanging with "I'll call you later with the details�"
Keep topics light and keep away from controversial issues on the first date. Also, refrain from using off-color language or jokes, or making sexual references.
Free dating advice, dating ideas, date tips, COOL date ideas, do something different Try a sporting event neither one of you have ever seen live: a polo match, professional tennis tournament, golf tournament, dressage, volleyball, tractor-pull, sumo-wrestling - whatever you can agree on doing together that's different.
Collect cocktail napkins or other mementos from all the places you have been together.
Help solve a problem by writing a letter to together to the love doctor - "Dr TRuth."
Remember, games can be fun. Monopoly, computer games for two, card games, and end it all with a game of Twister.
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Salem Hill recently released their most ambitious project yet, Mimi's Magic Moment. Throwing aside sensibility and their previous dabbling into mainstream rock, Mimi finds Carl Groves and company at their creative best. Four long, orchestral compositions brimming with the freedom to groove, meander, and jam, yet packed with the melodic vocal genius that sinks this band's songs irrevocably into your soul. This album grips and haunts me, each and every song, and it doesn't get stale after repeated listening. Copious repeated listening, at this point. It's my 2005 album of the year.
Two of these songs I experienced live before I had heard the record (see the concert review here), which was a special treat. This music is different from Be, much more jazzy and old-school progressive. Ripping off their neo badge, Tennessee's Salem Hill proudly resurrects that joyous English spirit of musical creativity last seen in 1973. The Joy Gem, which begins somewhat Kansas flavored, morphs into pure Salem Hill aural bliss, one of Carl's most creative compositions. Telling a cryptic tale of a mythical Gem of Joy fought over by armies, which I interpret as an allegory of the gift of salvation, besmirched throughout the ages by men and institutions bent on molding it to their own image. Its an epic number, with extended instrumental interludes, highlighted by the guest appearance of David Ragsdale (Kansas) on violin. Kevin Thomas' drums are tight and perfectly recorded. Pat Henry's bass thumps and growls as it grooves. Michael Dearing and Carl Groves trade guitar licks and piano, organ and synth solos. And as fine of musicians as they are, Salem Hill seldom showboats, every lick is deliberate and meaningful, and adds to the aurally impressionistic masterpiece that they have crafted. They sound tighter and more polished than ever, and the joy of a band in their prime doing what they love shines through every extended note. Can anything top that?
In fact, amazingly the album gets better with each song. All Fall Down, penned by Michael Dearing, is a song about pride and performance, exposing the lie that popularity brings. He should know, he just finished touring the world for years with country mega-star Gretchen Wilson. Again, the poignant lyrics are gripping, but musically the creativity and freedom expressed grabs you until the song sputters out into flailing cacophony of guitars, signifying the angel crashing to earth under the weight of bloated pride. After a deep breath, the hauntingly gorgeous Stolen By Ghosts takes you by the hand and leads you into the realm of broken dreams. Another Dearing epic, it tells the sad tale of someone burdened by a tragic loss of loved ones. Like an elixir distilled from the Robbery of Murder, this song tugs at your emotions and deepest fears, yet manages to be inexplicably beautiful. Again, Ragsdale's soaring violins lead into Carl's layered keyboard soloing which then trades licks with Dearing's guitars and back around again in the most splendid of freeform jams. Seldom does modern progressive rock music sound as fresh and exhilarant as this. It's rare that a 20 minute song doesn't wear out its welcome, but the last minute of each song is as fresh as the first. This is the same creative freedom that bands like Camel experimented with in the dawn of the 1970's, yet packed with much more lyrical depth and songwriting skill. What is left of me now, all of it stolen by ghosts? That sad refrain echoes long after the disc keeps spinning.
Like your four adored children, you simply can't choose a favorite song here, you just enjoy each for their uniqueness. But that doesn't stop The Future Me from completely blowing you away, even as you're still reeling from Ghosts. Ripping into a Frippishly layered repetitive jam, which Carl then solos over on guitar and then synthesizers, the song builds musically for several blissful minutes before the vocals finally kick in. Groves and Patrick Henry's words expound upon juxtaposition between the futility of religious arguments and failures and the gloriously perfect recreated beings we will someday become, that endless battle within the human soul. This is deep, introspective stuff, most likely over the head of the casual listener that doesn't take the time to think through the depth of the poetic revelations. And the music has the depth to match, the fruit of musicians in sync and enjoying one another as they go off on creative musical explorations that mirror perfectly the spiritual searching displayed in the words. The song builds to a fantastic crescendo, highlighted by special guest Fred Schendel's (of Glass Hammer) lightning-fast piano solo. Mimi's Moment is indeed Magic and it is unlikely that you'll hear an album as powerful and satisfying as this anytime soon. {dt}
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