Hints and Tips for Safe and Successful Online Relationships

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Written on 8:06 PM by yudi


we are here to help you be successful in dating and meeting new friends. It's what we do best. We want to take this opportunity of providing you with some hints and tips on helping you date safely, and successfully find that special person. You may wish to make and meet a new friend. Your main interest may be in dating online or dating in person, you may wish to find love and romance, perhaps the person you dream of marrying. It could be that you wish to travel or play sport or an activity and need a companion or other activity partner to come along.

The key to meeting new friends is to have fun, relax and enjoy. LoveBrowser.com is an excellent example of a dating site environment in which you can do these things safely and without any pressure. If you decide to meet someone there or in the outside world, then we feel there are some basic ideas you should follow for your personal comfort.

Of course, they cannot take responsibility for your actions using their services, as you are all adults, but they can offer some advice based on our own experiences.

Okay, so what can you do to help yourself?


First you need to get replies to your emails and messages. To do this here are some tips you may find helpful:-

* Think about how your profile is written. Ensure there are NO spelling mistakes in your My Own Words section and your emails and messages. This is the first important rule.
* Keep your description short but be completely honest. If you are not being truthful then when you meet, you will be discovered, if not before.
* Add fun and humor to your profile, and don't be too serious at first.
* Don't be afraid to state who you wish to meet and why. Most adults know the kind of person they are attracted to, even if they are not sure why.
* Tell people what you like and perhaps things you don't. Don't be offensive though.
* Take your time, you can edit your profile at LoveBrowser at any time. Change it occasionally to keep it fresh, and try to be original.
* Add a photo to your profile. We find that a member with a photo can get anything up to 9 times the amount of replies, in comparison with those that do not include one.
* Be polite with messaging, and don’t make judgments about the length of time to get a reply.
* Please don’t feel you need to block someone just because they are too busy to chat this time. Be cool.
* Keep your first email short and to the point, perhaps humorous and interesting. Don't include too much detail at this point, and just a few things that you have in common. Make the email talkative and allow it to flow. Don't be too serious at this stage or too emotional.
* Do NOT include you personal details in an introduction email. Leave that until a relationship is established, and you feel very comfortable with the other person.
* Try and contact a few people at the same time, but always those who you have matched, not those who you have nothing in common with as they will not welcome your contact.
* Be honest and stick to the truth. It is all too easy to add things that at this stage are not checkable. However, you may get caught out later and ruin a fantastic friendship or romance.
* Always reply quite quickly to any messages.
* Don't talk about money or possessions at this time. Most people like or love someone for who they are, not what they have. We assume you do not want to find someone who simply wants you for what you can provide.
* Do not apply any form of pressure in an email, whether it be for a reply or a meeting. Do not be critical of their profile or photo. This will create a negative response.

Okay, so once you have mailed other members and are receiving their emails, then you may wish to consider the following:-

Ensure Your Privacy is Protected

The information you supply when you register at dating sites like LoveBrowser.com is completely confidential. Your registration details are kept secret from all members and under no circumstances are made available to any third party. No member of staff should ever ask you for your password. They must NOT use your contact or email details for marketing purposes. Any member who matches you in their searches can only see what you have told them in terms of your personal profile, nothing more. Therefore, remember not to include you actual email address or telephone number in the text of your profile or in emails unless you are sure that you would like to take your friendship further. Dating sites generally cannot access your emails and do not have any control on what information you supply to another member. If someone you are in contact with is not giving much away then perhaps you should err on the side of caution.

Listen to Your Intuition

Often overlooked I feel. This is the thing we all use on a daily basis and we all trust our intuition often. It’s easy to get carried away when someone appears to be interested. Remember the rule, if you suspect something, you are probably correct. Trust your judgment. Listen to what you are being told. Ask many questions. Don't give too many details away if the other person tells you very little. If someone is being honest, they will be happy to tell you about themselves and their lives.

A key point is to make sure that you are enjoying your online dating. Never ever let someone pressure you. If you don't want to explain something or provide certain details then do not. A real friend will behave in a patient and relaxed way. After receiving an email, sit back and think about what you are being told, take your time and try and sense the person behind the email. And read their profile thoroughly.

When the Time Comes

At some point you may wish to meet in person the friend you have made. Remember the rule, you only have to meet someone if you really want to. If you feel uncomfortable about meeting, then don't agree to meet. Even if you have agreed, you can change your mind whenever you like. Perhaps you need to chat for longer, perhaps it would be better to use the phone first. Do not give out your home number, address, or personal details unless you are sure about the person you wish to meet.

If you do decide it's time to take your friendship a step further, then here are some things to think about. It may save you a great deal of time and effort: -


Ask yourself these questions:

Do you feel you know the person well?
Have they answered all your question?
Are they patient, good humored and fun?
Do you trust them?
Have they applied any pressure on you?
Do you know what they do for a living, and the area they live in?
Do you know about their background and family?
Have you seen their photo and have you more than one photo of them in different situations?
Have you spoken on the phone?
Are you sure they have described themselves truthfully?

If you can answer YES to these happily then maybe it is time to meet. Only you can decide that. Think about these general dating rules, and act upon them if you think they are a good idea :-

* Tell a person close to you about the meeting. Tell them where you are going, when you are meeting them, where the meeting will take place, what time you will be returning. Give a person close to you as much information as you can. If you have a mobile phone or are close to a pay phone then perhaps call to say you are fine and that everything is great.
* Agree to meet in a public place first. Perhaps a restaurant or bar or somewhere where there are plenty of other people. Agree to meet somewhere that you know, in familiar surroundings where you can relax and enjoy the meeting. You could arrange to have other friends in the same place but at a distance, so you feel more relaxed.
* Do not agree to be collected from work or home, and make your own way there and home on the first occasion. Perhaps get a friend to take you there and collect you afterwards.
* Restrict the time of the first meeting. Perhaps a lunch hour or a short time after work. This is useful if you decide that the situation is not favorable and you need to leave.
* If at any point you wish to leave then do so. Do not feel obliged to stay and find yourself feeling awkward. If you do not feel relaxed then you will not enjoy the date. You owe it to yourself to feel happy and relaxed, and it is possible that it may take a few meetings with different people before you find that special person.

Long Distance Relationships

Online Dating through sites like LoveBrowser means that you can easily meet people from all over the world. This is a fantastic way of dating and perhaps very soon you may find yourself emotionally involved with someone who lives a long way away. Perhaps that may be part of the attraction even. However you should try and be practical. If the person lives overseas then ask yourself the question as to are you serious that you will travel a long way to see that person? If you do travel and find yourself more than happy, then how easy will it be to keep up the relationship? If you are content with this situation, and you decide to meet then there are some other things you may wish to consider:

* ALWAYS stay in a hotel you have arranged yourself, and never stay at their accommodation, however generous. This will allow you both to feel less pressure, to relax into the situation and find some common ground. You may have both made promises in mail or on the phone that may be harder to keep once a meeting has occurred. If possible, arrange the hotel in a secure area of the city you are visiting, and arrange the hotel yourself. It's always easier to escape a date that's not going well, when not staying with them.
* Provide the details of your hotel and travel arrangements to a best friend at home, and make an arrangement to contact them when you arrive, after you have met your new friend and when you are returning. Take a mobile phone if possible and keep in contact.
* Always be cautious if in any doubt, and never be uncomfortable about changing your mind and returning home at any time should the situation cause you any concern.

The Bottom Line

The bottom line? Be yourself and enjoy your dating. We know that online dating can be great fun, safe and immensely enjoyable. We have found that as long as the basic precautions are followed, then it is possible to travel locally, or indeed, anywhere in the world to meet a special partner or make new friends. The beauty of dating online is that the whole world is open to allow you to meet fantastic new people. Just use a little intuition and common sense. We hope you don't mind us offering some basic tips and wish you every success.
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Great opening lines for meeting women

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Written on 4:42 AM by yudi


Opening Lines

In my last tip I sent you out to meet women.

How did you do?

Did one thing work better than something else?

Well if you found an 'opening line' that worked more than once, you should use it again.

But be aware, there is no perfect opening line that will work–without fail, time and time again.

There are many variables to consider including time, location, her mood, her receptivity, your attitude, your demeanor, and numerous other factors you will discover here at BetterDatesNow.com in the future.

For now, let's examine some opening lines.

But first, let's set the scene.

If there's a big crowd and she's with a lot of people and it's very noisy it's a bad place to meet and introduce yourself.

Why?

She probably can't hear you well and you can't hear her. But that's a problem because most guys try to meet women at a club, filled with noise, dancing and drunks.

It's probably the worst place to meet a woman because that's what every other guy is there to do. You're just one in a million. You're just like every other guy on the prowl looking for chicks. Although, I have had some successful encounters in that very atmosphere using a technique I perfected. More about that later.

A better strategy is to meet women where there aren't a lot of guys trying to meet women.

For example, the post office, the library, a museum, a wedding, a funeral, the market, the gas station, a department store, the park, the beach, the subway, a restaurant, even on a busy street in the middle of Manhattan.

Now each of those locations requires a variation on some opening lines.

But none of them requires changing the best opener of all; "Hi."Just 'Hi' seems to work...

If you deliver a "Hi" with a smile like you're recognizing an old friend you haven't seen in months it can work wonders.

Seems too simple but it's true. Because if you deliver the line like that, she is likely to think she already knows you and can't recall who you are.

If you come off as friendly, non-threatening and sincerely glad to see her (like an old friend) she will be receptive.

If she is, and responds to you with a friendly "Hi" or "Hello," you now have the ball in your court.

It can be a virtual tennis match for the first few sentences. Your job is to win the match.

As long as she keeps hitting the ball back to your court, you're in the game.

If she doesn't return the ball, the game is over for this player, find another.

Here's a scenario:

You're pumping gas and at a nearby pump is an attractive woman you want to meet.

It's Wednesday, she's not wearing a wedding ring so you begin.Opening lines -- How's your Tuesday going?

You: "Hi"

Her: "Hello"

You: "How's your Tuesday going?"

Her: "It's Wednesday."

You: (Realizing your mistake, you say) "So it is. So how DID your Tuesday go?" (you're smiling here)

Her: (Any answer) Good, not good, I don't remember, great…whatever she says you respond the same.

You: "So is your Wednesday going better?"

At this point-if you're smiling and/or being pleasant, she sees you as lighthearted and most women like guys who are lighthearted and who might just be fun to be with.

So now we're at a critical point– with the ball in her court.

If she says something here, or anytime before this point, that moved the conversation forward, you're doing well.

If she doesn't you're done.

Let's say she answers with "It's going ok, how about you?" You're in luck, she's interested.



More opening lines that have worked well for me:

"May I ask you a question?" If she says "yes", you ask a very obscure question like, "Do you think a full moon affects the way people act?" This launches a conversation.

"Is it me or does the time seem to be going by faster this year?" Also a conversation starter.

"I'm considering moving. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?" (follow up with ‘why?')

"Who do you think are happier, married people or single people?" (follow up with ‘why?')

With the above opening lines you're opening the door for a conversation. As she talks, you listen, and ask questions. You become interested in her. And as a result, she becomes more interested in you, because you listen. It's as simple as that.

NEVER use the old standards... Very Bad opening lines:

# Do you come here often?
# What sign are you?
# Are you here for the beauty contest? (might work if she's intoxicated)
# May I buy you a drink?


My favorite and most successful opening line: "Hi."

If a conversation is started, you interrupt yourself, extend your hand and introduce yourself.

Something like this: "I'm sorry, I didn't even introduce myself. My name is Matt."

The way she responds to your extended hand and the chance to tell you her name will reveal a lot.
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How to tell if she's interested

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Written on 4:34 AM by yudi


Let's assume you're at a coffee shop and you see a woman you want to meet. You approach her and say something like, "I haven't seen you here before, what's your name?"

Let's say she tells you her name answering "Kelli."

She has immediately sized you up, made a decision to tell you her name and done so.

Would you say she is interested in knowing you?

I would say she's not very interested.

Why?

Because she didn't ask you your name.

She didn't say "My name is Kelli, what's yours?" If she does say that, you're off to a good start.

Let's take another example.

You approach her and say something like this: "Hi, I'm Matt. I haven't seen you here before, who are you?"

# If she says "Hi Matt, I'm Kelli," that's a great sign.
# If she extends her hand toward a handshake, even better.
# If she responds to the "who are you" in your introduction with something like "I'm just a person who enjoys coffee" and doesn't offer her name it's not a good sign. She's not immediately interested in you.

Does that mean it's over with her?

Not necessarily.

An important thing to understand in dealing with women is SHE is the one who decides if the introduction, the conversation and the relationship will go forward. The woman makes the decision based on her level of interest.

Can you make her more interested in you?

With skill, yes.

But in the first seconds of that first meeting she, on a very primitive level, decides if she likes what she sees and hears-or not. It's a spontaneous reaction to what she sees and feels about you.

Are you threatening? Are you smiling? Do you seem friendly or aggressive? Are you confident or nervous?

She has a special kind of radar and makes the decision immediately. Of course you could also catch her on a bad day. She may have just come from her dog's funeral and is not in a very good mood. But assuming that's not the case, her interest in you is much more important than your interest in her.

The big mistake we men make is thinking that because I like her, she should like me.

The way you feel about her has nothing to do with it. If she doesn't like you, or want to know you better, it's over. Don't waste your time.

When approaching a woman for the first time I have always liked the "Who are you" question, with emphasis on the word 'are.'

It suggests curiosity and at the same time indicates you have confidence.

Your assignment for this tip is to meet women.

Find ways of saying 'hello' and introducing yourself. Especially if it's a woman you are not attracted to. It's called practice. And if you're not really interested in her, you have nothing to lose and you won't be nervous. Give it try. Have fun and observe what happens.
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How to Understand Women

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Written on 4:27 AM by yudi


The only reason some guy is scoring big with women and you're not, is that he knows something you don't know..

What's Does He Know? When you're out in the world notice how women act.

At a restaurant, a coffee shop or department store. Observe and make mental notes. If you're looking for a woman, in a bar, a club, a social event or wherever, observe how women act.

# If she's with a man watch what she does: Is she touching him?
# Is he touching her?
# When she's talking to a man is he doing most of the talking-or is she?
# Is she leaning toward him or away?

We'll talk about body language in future tips but for now your assignment is to observe and make mental notes.

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, "What you are speaks so loudly I can't hear what you're saying."

And so it goes when you observe.

You won't have to hear a word they're saying, because you will understand exactly what is going on by watching the way that they act.
This works for observing a couple, or a woman alone, or two or more women together.

Especially look for signs of 'interest.'
# Is she interested in the man she's with?
# Can you see it?
# Where are her eyes focused?

Her interest is a key factor in any relationship, whether you want to take her home that night or marry her, her degree of interest will be the deciding factor.

In fact, there is nothing more important than her interest.

In next week's tip we'll explore more about how to gauge her interest. And in future tips I'll tell you how to maximize her interest.
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FREE Dating & Mating Secrets for Guys

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Written on 4:11 AM by yudi

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Dating Secret #1 - How to Understand Women
Dating Secret #2 - How to Tell if She's Interested in You
Dating Secret #3 - Great Opening Lines
Dating Secret #4 - Level of Interest - The Phone Number
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